Genesis 31

1 Now Laban's sons became jealous. Laban himself started to display passive aggressive behavior. Jacob became afraid for his safety.
3 God had largely been silent with Jacob over this period of time. Now God gives him specific instructions. At this point Jacob was glad to comply.
5 To his credit, Jacob gives God credit.
14 Laban had basically "sold" his daughters to Jacob (for a pretty steep price), and apparently had estranged them as well. They felt they had been used.In addition, Jacob had not earned any money for an inheritance while working for Laban. To Rebekah and Leah, it seemed just that Jacob had finally earned an inheritance to pass on to his many sons.
18 Jacob and his family sneaked away while Laban was shearing sheep elsewhere.
19 I really wonder where Rachel's heart is here. Perhaps Jacob did not tell his family about God whom could see and speak, or perhaps Rachel did not understand this. Maybe, being raised in a polytheistic society, she mistakenly believed that there was more than one God.Whatever the case, these objects did not belong to her. She stole them and almost got executed for doing so.
22 Either a left behind servant found Laban, or Laban had sent a messenger to Jacob's house for some reason. Neither situation would be particularly unusual.
23 Laban was no doubt furious. Jacob had won the best part of Laban's flocks and now he just picked up and left without warning or fanfare. As is quickly seen, Laban found that his precious idol collection had been stolen.
24 God's statement to Laban would seem to indicate that he was to not speak at all (basically, "call off the search."). However, Laban is determined to confront Jacob, so he continued the pursuit.
27 Laban is making this up. He really wanted to control what Jacob did, and perhaps get some or all of his flocks back by trickery.
29 For some reason Laban felt that Jacob's actions were so wrong that he could take revenge, but he won't because Jacob's God told him not to.
30 Laban now brings the valid accusation of the theft.
31 Jacob explains that his actions reflect his fear of Laban. In our relationships with others, we should strive to produce love, not fear.
35 Rachel "faked" a menstruation cycle so that her father would not search where she was sitting. Moses' law of uncleanness (Lev 15:19-20) may have been recognized earlier, just because of it's nature.
36 Now Jacob was angry. Laban had chased them, offered platitudes, and then searched all their things. Jacob may have felt that Laban had made the story up as an excuse to make Jacob's life miserable.
38 Jacob then makes a speech that justifies his actions and accuses Laban of wrongdoing. Laban should have been ashamed for the way he had treated others, especially someone who was so good to him.Jacob was probably in his early 60's by this time.
42 Jacob credits God for his successes, as we all should.
43 Laban still has it in his head that Jacob's wives, children, and sheep belong to him. In truth, he sold his daughters, was not the father of Jacob's children, and had paid for Jacob's work with the sheep. They were not Laban's to claim or posses. When we give something away, we should not continue to long for it. When we give our children to be married, we should not try to control their lives or desire their return.
44 Jacob and Laban exchange promises. The pile of stones is a witness because 1) when Jacob or Laban would see it, they would remember their promises and 2) when others asked about the pile, the story would be told again. This was a public promise.
46 Laban used the Aramaic language, and Jacob used Hebrew. Both words mean "the heap of witness." (TSK)
49 "watch tower" -- TSK
50 Jacob promises to treat his wives (Laban's daughters) well and not marry any more women.
52 They also promise not to cross the border to attack each other. This is a peace treaty in the same sense of modern treaties since they are not promises between friends, but between untrusting enemies.
54 This probably was a peace offering.